26 June - Preg & pry & pray
You know when you're an old cynic when a man tells you this story and it so doesn't surprise you.
So, T. has an old friend he used to work with, a beautiful girl he feels very sorry for because she's developed MS and can't really work anymore. He meets with her once in a while and when he met her last she told him she was unhappy because she got pregnant and her relationship with her boyfriend had been shaky for a while and he said he didn't want the child. Which I thought was fair enough given her circumstances and the fact he's probably not left her yet out of some sense of duty. But T. is all incensed and reckons if you really don't want a child, then you use a condom as otherwise the possibility is pretty real. Uhm.
So he got a call the other day from girl with MS and pregnant with child unwanted by partner and she told him she'd found he's on some dating website and has been seeing this other woman. Which is pretty devastating news. Bloke is away working/filming somewhere and something made her look/find the evidence of his betrayal.
T. is more outraged than he was before. I simply view it much more matter of factly. This guy is with a sick person he no longer loves, told her doesn't want a child and is very likely going to walk and in the meantime he's just sorting out his next life whilst she, having had reason to feel rejected several times, still hangs on to a relationship that's run its course. I find myself saying 'Eveyone is on the internet meeting people they're not married or going out with.. Why do you think it's so popular, what do you think people do for hours on it?' I have to stop there short of giving him several examples fresh from various friends' lives. He's so green.
T. is still upset on her behalf. I sense he wishes he could go to the rescue. I come across as some unfeeling bad person, but I simply view people with disabilities who insist on having kids as selfish. Call me uber-selfish, but why bring a baby into your world if you're unlikely to be able to look after it and someone else will have to do the job for/with you? I hope she's got faith and knows how to pray.
So, T. has an old friend he used to work with, a beautiful girl he feels very sorry for because she's developed MS and can't really work anymore. He meets with her once in a while and when he met her last she told him she was unhappy because she got pregnant and her relationship with her boyfriend had been shaky for a while and he said he didn't want the child. Which I thought was fair enough given her circumstances and the fact he's probably not left her yet out of some sense of duty. But T. is all incensed and reckons if you really don't want a child, then you use a condom as otherwise the possibility is pretty real. Uhm.
So he got a call the other day from girl with MS and pregnant with child unwanted by partner and she told him she'd found he's on some dating website and has been seeing this other woman. Which is pretty devastating news. Bloke is away working/filming somewhere and something made her look/find the evidence of his betrayal.
T. is more outraged than he was before. I simply view it much more matter of factly. This guy is with a sick person he no longer loves, told her doesn't want a child and is very likely going to walk and in the meantime he's just sorting out his next life whilst she, having had reason to feel rejected several times, still hangs on to a relationship that's run its course. I find myself saying 'Eveyone is on the internet meeting people they're not married or going out with.. Why do you think it's so popular, what do you think people do for hours on it?' I have to stop there short of giving him several examples fresh from various friends' lives. He's so green.
T. is still upset on her behalf. I sense he wishes he could go to the rescue. I come across as some unfeeling bad person, but I simply view people with disabilities who insist on having kids as selfish. Call me uber-selfish, but why bring a baby into your world if you're unlikely to be able to look after it and someone else will have to do the job for/with you? I hope she's got faith and knows how to pray.
posted by Lisa Taylor @ 8:42 AM
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